Wedding Night Sex for Christians
A little preparation before the wedding will go a long way. Are you engaged to a Christian man and feel unprepared for your wedding night? Specifically the sex part of your wedding night? Don’t worry — there are plenty of Christian couples with nerves before their wedding night.
How to Prepare for Sex on Your Wedding Night
It’s wise to be aware of the need to discuss expectations about your honeymoon — specifically sex on your honeymoon — with your betrothed. However, the timing and content of those conversations prior to the wedding night are important. But don’t have the conversation too soon! You’ll only create opportunities for temptation, because it’s unbelievable how erotic just talking about sex can be.
I would also recommend not having the conversation alone. At a minimum, talk with your fiancé about expectations during premarital counseling. Sex is a common topic covered by most pastors before the wedding night.
Conversations and Expectations About First-Time Sex
Talk to a mentor — and to your fiancé — about your questions and expectations around sex. If what you cover with your pastor seems inadequate, you could talk separately with a same-sex Christian mentor about specific questions you have before the wedding night. A candid conversation with an older married woman you trust would be helpful a few weeks before the wedding. Really, you need very little time to prepare.
Here are some questions engaged couples have asked that might feel familiar to you:
- How can my fiancé and I prepare for our wedding night in a God-honoring way?
- What is a responsible way to prepare for the time when we can become one?
- I don’t have a very clear idea of how we can best talk and think about our wedding night without exploring things we shouldn’t.
But it’s going to be OK. Don’t worry — after the wedding, you will have plenty of time to learn how to enjoy each other sexually.