Wedding tips from other couples: read these 10 tips for your big day
Wedding tips are always helpful, right? We received answers from about 15 brides on the question what they would have done differently, if they would get married now. We have experience with more than 400 weddings and we like to share that information with you. These are tips to make your wedding more fun, easier, more relaxed or more personal.
A Summary of Essential Planning Tips
If you don’t have that much time, in summary, the following points came up a lot:
- Take your time with your wedding planning. That way you make sure everything is done right.
- Think carefully about your schedule. A lot can go wrong here.
- Try to plan some quiet time for the two of you.
- Have as much as possible arranged by professionals (if you have the budget for it).
- Take more “Mon et Mine” time.
- Travel less during the day and think carefully about your means of transport.
Better think about the schedule and times
A few of our couples emailed us saying they had made a mistake with the preparations: “Because the hairdresser was running late I felt like I had to rush during the make-up and putting on the dress so I was a little less conscious of that.” Preparations often take up a lot of time anyway. You can easily spend two hours on make-up and hair. Another bride emailed that in hindsight she might have wanted to have fewer people during the preparations themselves. So during make-up, not all your friends, sisters and mother (in law), but preferably as few people as possible. Think beforehand if you like having people around you at the moment or not. You know yourself best.
Styling and Communication with Vendors
Because you often have to deal with many different vendors, it is important that you know exactly what you want. If you have specific styling requirements, make sure it’s in writing when someone takes over the styling. I have experienced myself that certain styling elements were photographed by the bride and then those photos were stuck on boxes. That way, the master of ceremonies knew exactly what the bride meant in terms of styling. This is very useful when you have very specific ideas. Even if you have a shorter planning period, it is completely possible to have a nice and personal wedding.
Wedding Planning in a Long-Distance Relationship
Wedding planning in a long-distance relationship comes with its unique challenges. You’re not just picking venues and cake flavours; you’re figuring out how to communicate when tensions rise and how to make decisions as a team. According to Karen Cleveland, “long-distance love can be deliciously romantic, but once you're in the same space planning a wedding, you're not just merging schedules, you're merging expectations, communication styles, and possibly cutlery preferences.” To help make the experience smoother, commit to using half your time for wedding planning and the other half for just enjoying each other.
Dividing Tasks and Staying Organized
Whether one or both of you have relocated or are still adjusting to living together, deciding who handles what can be tough. It’s not just about delegation—it’s about fairness, preference, and practicality. Figure out what matters to you as a couple, agree on what's important and what you can let go of. This shared approach ensures both partners feel involved and avoids resentment. Digital tools are key: Google Docs is your new friend.
Turning Planning into Partnership
Your relationship is more important than your wedding. Use your wedding planning as a way to test and practice solving-problem skills, pointing to conflict resolution, budgeting, and dealing with family dynamics as valuable learning experiences. You’ll learn how your partner handles pressure, money, time, in-laws, and menu decisions that feel wildly more intense than they should. While the floral arrangements may fade from memory, how you showed up for each other during this time will stay with you long after the big day.